I find that my relationships with people have strained a bit because of the lack of conversation. We talk but nothing really gets said. I wonder who really is to blame because of it. I guess I am because if I notice it as a problem then I should be the one to fix it.
And yet it's pretty difficult to arrive to this place in a non awkward manner. Because at this point outside of
Me- Look... I get that it's my fault but I really don't know you.
other: what do you mean?
Me- You tell me the latest celebrity gossip.. you email me random crap that you think I would like... occasionally we talk about the weather but what is that?
Other: um... a friendship?
Me- okay... do you know about the weight struggle I've had for years? Do you know that I find more about you through facebook than actual conversation?
other- First off... I've tried to talk about the weight thing it's you that doesn't make it my fault and Second what's with the tude about facebook? It's not like I'm keeping secrets or anything.
Ne- There is no hostility. I just wanted to... It's just...
And so the conversation will fade as it inevitably does and the relationship will follow.
[sigh]
So how do you foster a relationship in an internet age where there is almost this underlining theory that if it's on facebook it's all good? What do you do?
